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Before we look at the proof, before you shrug your shoulders, before you even begin to think
so what?
Just consider what this seemingly innocent statement actually means in practice!!
Because my research reveals that regardless of whether women agree with this statement or not - most do NOT act as if it is true!
Now it's not entirely our fault that we have got this wrong. There are a lot of myths that we are taught to believe.
We know that females choose their mates in the wild. No secret there!
Whether it's the peacock with the fanciest tail or the elk with the
biggest horn (stop snickering, I'm serious here!) we all know that its the
female that chooses which stud she is going to mate with. And the males
have to "display" what they have to offer, right?
If you are in any doubtr just sit on any park bench and watch the pigeons.
But - and the mistake is an easy one to make - the parallel we "smart"
humans made of this was that because females (in our culture anyway)
are the ones that seem to do the displaying, then we must be the
one's getting chosen!! What's more in many cultures, a woman's parents (or father!) does the choosing for her.
So it has become easy to overlook what nature intends.
However, the proof is out there!
? What is really happenning ?
Its such a simple retake. Just a litle twitch in the fabric of illusion and suddenly we can see what is really going on!
Some women "sort" of get it. Especially the HB's (in popular male slang meaning Hot Babes)
because they experience so many men falling all over themselves to get
their attention. But most of them don't really understand either
just how completely they are the one's with all the choosing power (let's call it 'selection' power).
Here are a few a little clues revealed from some clever research done in the US and Europe.
The Us researchers set up some observers to watch the interaction
between men and women in various night club. One of the findings was
that when women do certain actions, men will approach within 15 seconds!!
Another stuudy done in Europe found that when women are fertile they
display more skin when they go out to night clubs than they do at other
times of the month.
In other words women are not displaying to be chosen.
They are signalling to men their "availability"
(don't get stuck on this word, it has as many meanings as we women want
it to have including "just testing the waters to see what will happen")
Most men then behave in a variety of ways that basically says
"choose me, choose me"
How well they do this (some are really bad at it) determines whether we
get attracted or repulsed. Whether we "select" him or not!
(Seduction or Pick-Up Artists, by contrast, understand that women are
the selectors and have worked out how to "cheat" - much easier to do when
women don't understand they have the power to select in the first
place!)
Just imagine - for a moment - that all this is true!
YOU, and YOU alone have been given - by NATURE - the absolute power to
choose who you mate with. That men have NO choices. ONLY YOU.
Just think how differently you would go about getting a boyfriend, a lover, a husband, a partner, a one-night stand... whatever!
Once we understand what is really going on, how can we fail? If you
could choose, you would choose a great guy to spend your time with,
right?
He would be loving, strong, funny, faithfull, athletic, etc., (my research shows that some women will add as many as 50 more qualities they want in a guy)
This may give you a clue to understanding that knowing that we women are the selectors is just the first secret for success.
Because we have lost what I like to call our "selector fitness", we no longer have an accurate idea of which guys are worth selecting.
And we end up with really bad results
And this brings us to the second secret we MUST know if we are to have a happy love life.
And another area where myth rules and we are completely misled about what is happenning.
You can find out more about the first secret from my book...
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