"How To Tell Which GuysMake Great Mates"

              Samples from Chapter 6


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As we will see in the next chapter (The Secret World of the Pick Up Artist), mate guarding is not just a response to female selectivity in action. The fact is that there are males and female who actively engage in mate poaching – that is, deliberately attracting someone who is already in a relationship.

Research indicates that mate poaching is frequently attempted for both short term sexual liaisons and for longer term committed relationships.



This research found that poaching attempts in the population studied (students) do actually succeed about 50% of the time.
That’s a huge success rate! These figures suggest that all is not well in the world of mating!

My take on this is that many males have lost the knowledge and the confidence to mate guard and that females have lost the selector-fitness that ensures she has selected a good mate in the first place.

Males seem to have lost their mate guarding fitness. This may be due, in part, because they have bought the myth that monogamy is the only “natural” human mating strategy and the related myth that females are inherently faithful. But part of the problem – discussed below - is that they have come to rely on mate guarding strategies that have evolved culturally over the last few thousand years, that are no longer appropriate.

Many females in our culture do more now than simply “mind the nest”.

They actively pursue careers themselves. These careers take them away from the guarded nest and thrust them into a world of males - males who are not all “blue necks”! That means they come into close contact with males that may be seeking an extra mate (orange necks) or are engaging in simple casual mate poaching (yellow necks?).

Given the huge costs to a male that is associated with loss of paternity, how has this failure to adapt new mate guard strategies come about?

A look at how mate guarding has evolved over time and in different
cultures gives us some important insight into this fascinating and little discussed area of the male mating drive.

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Perhaps the most important observations we can make from all this is that:

Monogamous mate guarding behavior is:

• deliberate,
• consistent,
• continuous,
• mutually maintained, and
• mutually beneficial

action aimed at ensuring the long-term viability of the relationship.
Conclusion

If our look at mate guarding showed us anything, it is that males will attempt to find ways to rob females of their freedom to select wisely in any way they can. It is in their best interest to do this.

That way they can get paternity and keep it! They will use laws, force, medicine, religious pressure, and chemistry to get them what they want. It is that important to them.

Mate guarding is a pretty dramatic issue. All the same, human mate guarding is not well understood. In my opinion, the research that has looked at it has actually incorrectly identified mate guarding behavior.

That does mean that there is confusion among at least some females about what mate guarding is, how to recognize it, and how to use this knowledge as part of her mate selection routine.
 
Don’t worry. Pick Up Artists certainly understand what mate guarding is and use this knowledge to get successes with women.
By following their lead, we can gain some

                                    
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